Why Are Single Women Without Children So Happy?

People often inquire about my single status and when I plan to settle down and start a family, as if these are the only paths to happiness for an adult woman. These questions can be unpleasant, and I often struggle to respond. However, I’ve come across a study that may provide some answers: Single women without children are the happiest.

The notion that single women without children lead the happiest lives isn’t new. According to research, among all demographic groups, single women without children tend to report the highest levels of happiness.

This conclusion is based on the work of Paul Dolan, a professor of behavioral science at the London School of Economics. Dolan suggests that there are several reasons for this trend, and it challenges our traditional notions of success and happiness.

Firstly, Dolan points out that the benefits of a partnership, although beneficial for both men and women, often favor men more. Men, once married, tend to take fewer risks and lead longer, healthier lives. They also tend to earn more money. In contrast, married women, particularly in middle age, are more likely to experience physical and mental health issues.

Dolan’s research led him to assert that “[t]he healthiest and happiest population subgroup are women who never married or had children.”

This study challenges the conventional notion that success is synonymous with a stable marriage, family, and career. For many women, relationships and raising children can be highly stressful. Even in 2021, women often shoulder the bulk of domestic responsibilities, including cooking and cleaning. They also frequently engage in more emotional labor within relationships.

Additionally, women tend to have stronger social networks and connections outside of romantic relationships. Men, on the other hand, often rely on their spouses to manage their social circles and may not form as many deep social ties.

Single women, in contrast, have the freedom to focus on their own happiness without the compromises often required in relationships or when raising children. They can pursue career advancement, travel the world, and make choices without considering the needs or expectations of a partner or family.

This doesn’t apply solely to heterosexual single women. The freedom from family or other obligations benefits everyone who is single. However, women have historically faced more limitations in this regard.

It’s important to note that happiness is not confined to one’s family or relationship status. Fulfilling, loving relationships and parenthood can bring immense joy and satisfaction. What this research highlights is that happiness is not a one-size-fits-all concept. There are multiple paths to contentment, and each individual’s journey is unique.

So, whether you are single, in a relationship, have children, or don’t, you have the capacity to lead a happy and fulfilling life. The key is to choose the path that aligns best with your own values, desires, and aspirations.