Heavily pregnant woman wonders if she’s at fault as fiancé leaves her alone at Christmas

The holiday season, typically a time of warmth and joy, holds a challenging twist for this woman, who took to Reddit to get some advice on what to do in her situation.

The 31-year-old woman explained on the popular ‘Am I the A*e‘ forum that she and her 31-year-old fiancé were expecting their first baby at the end of the year, with the due date being December 30th

So far, everything had been going swimmingly until the woman’s fiancé dropped a bombshell – he would be going on his family’s annual Christmas vacation to Florida, despite the pair agreeing that they wouldn’t go.

Not only had her fiancé completely caught her off guard by ignoring their agreement and booking tickets to Florida, he also somehow thought it would be a good idea to go alone.
The Florida trip is set to last from December 15th to December 28th, with the fiancé arriving back home just two days before the woman’s due date. She wrote on her post: “He agreed not to go this year because of the baby but his family is insisting that he go and come back on the 28th which is ‘ample time before the baby is due’. So he bought a ticket for December 15th-28th. His reasoning is that his parents really want him there and his siblings will also be going.”

The woman expressed how worried she was about potentially going into labor alone, saying: “I know pregnancies are unpredictable, especially in the last trimester, and if anything happens leading up to the due date, I need him there.”

She also admitted that the prospect of spending Christmas alone is a smaller factor, but that it still makes her upset. “He’s been spending Christmas every year in Florida since he was 15 and there will be many more trips after the baby is born. I don’t know why he has to go THIS YEAR,” she added.

“Any time I bring it up, it results in a very uncomfortable fight about my expectations to put me first rather than his parents. I don’t even bring it up anymore,” her posts concluded. “His parents have always been kind to me but they also don’t see any problem so I think I’m going crazy?”
In the comments section, Reddit users voiced their opinions on the woman’s unique situation – and virtually everyone said her frustrations were justified.

“This is your first baby, you do not know if the baby will be here early, on time or late. His family is you and the baby. If his family can’t see that, that another issue. None of them have a crystal ball and know when that baby is coming,” one person wrote.

“Personally, I would also be pointing out how quickly things can go wrong for Mum or bubs during labour. I am actually disgusted with him for thinking this is okay to leave his vulnerable wife during that time… You just don’t know whats going to happen. And whats with not wanting to spend Christmas with you? Leaving you completely alone. Not cool. I am furious for you,” they added.

A further user agreed, adding: “So unforgivable. I don’t see how he could possibly be a good partner or father based on the fact that he sees nothing wrong with this and is arguing with her about it. Even if it wasn’t for the health risks, [the woman] is absolutely not selfish for not wanting to be alone on Christmas, and it’s insane she thinks so. I hope she tells her friends, because if I was one of them I would absolutely be making her part of my family Christmas.”

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